One of the qualities of successful partners is that they become (best) friends and that they are comfortable with each other’s presence. Energy and love between both parties flows effortlessly. It doesn’t feel like work, it feels like pure joy. You cannot get enough of each other.
If you’ve done your due diligence here on Freaya and you are on that first, magical date with someone research shows that in the first 90 days we tend to live in the honeymoon period and don’t see each other for who we truly are or potentially can be. You immediately feel you’ve known each other for years. But this is love itself blinding you and you have to learn to recognize this.
So, you have to give it time. The most important thing is to enjoy, not to try to impress. If someone likes you, they like you and there is no need to impress.
Having fun is the goal, the rest will follow.
If you’ve been dating each other for quite some time and are still self-conscious when you are in each other’s presence, maybe you weren’t meant for one another. The goal is to share in each other’s happiness rather than needing one another to complete your happiness.
The same goes with professing your love.
Cupid is a baby without adult awareness, and blind. So, it does not see any logic, listens to any reasoning, it just listens to the purity of the emotions.
But to call Cupid to act on your behalf, you need to cultivate self-love before being able to love others. You need to be self-assured and have a feeling of self-sufficiency before loving others. You need to be you, and love being you. Therefore you have to have all your ducks in a row as they say so eloquently – emotionally, mentally, physically and financially. You never wanna bring drama to a date.
If you need some time to work on yourself before going out on a date then please do so. You want to bring the very best version of yourself to a date as well as you’d expect your date to bring the best version of themselves.
So, no need to impress as quite often you’ll just lose yourself in the process of trying to “impress” others. The goal is to become his/her (best) friend – friends don’t judge or insist upon themselves. They just enjoy and love each other for who and what they are.
People nowadays are really impatient. They need everything readily perfect and perfection is a trap. They can’t wait. They can’t compromise, and that’s bad for a successful relationship. You need to cultivate patience in yourself. You need to be patient with your potential future partner. You need to learn to love your partner’s flaws. Cultivate patience. Learn to love your partner’s flaws. If they are not patient or love your flaws, you’ve got to move on.
And remember, dating is about having fun first and foremost. If you can master the art of having mutual fun, you are a master dater.
Warm regards,
Mike from Freaya