Good evening ladies and gentlemen.
I hope everyone is doing great.
Why is dating so very important?
For the simple reason that it allows you the opportunity to get to know the other person better in order for you to lay a foundation of great friendship which can potentially flourish into wonderfully romantic love. Oftentimes we are a little blinded by being in love in the initial stages of meeting someone and we tend to look past some of the early red flags whatever those dreaded red flags turn out to be. This is human nature when we’re in love. It feels great to be in love yet it comes with its own pitfalls. Red flags can be objective as wel as subjective observations.
Therefore it pays dividends to the measure of passion and love we are able to share and to the peace and quiet in our soul to learn to take a step back initially and really be very honest to yourself about every red flag you see.
Red flags can be very subtle or they can be as subtle as a sledgehammer. Either way you are doing yourself a huge favor not to look past them because they can lead to an enormous amount of dissension later on down the road. Learn to not think with your emotions but with a healthy dose of common sense. Rational, if you will. I’m not saying one should completely block one’s emotions but the trick is to see reality as it is and not through the foggy glasses of initial blind enthusiasm.
Be completely honest with yourself as to whether or not the person you’re on a date with is truly someone who’s compatible with you. Have a mindset of abundance instead of thinking you have to force a “relationship” into existence because he or she is “the one”. Things should flow very naturally instead of contrived. If it feels like hard work, it is exactly that; hard work. This is in and of itself a major red flag. That is why going on dates is so valuable because you will learn the difference of a real connection which flows freely from a mutual state of undeniable attraction inwardly, as well as outwardly versus a situation which drains you of your energy and excitement as you get slapped in the face with red flag after red flag.
With Freaya we’ve attempted to eliminate as many of those red flags as possible before you even meet for a date, via our thorough profile creator and consequent matching for that is the strength of a great dating website. At Freaya we are interested in truly matching you with a person who’s not only highly compatible with you but is just a great person for you to be with. That’s why it’s imperative to take it slowly initially and to go on as many dates as possible keeping an open mindset while keeping your options open. There is nothing wrong with dating just one person as long as you remain realistic and you don’t project your own expectations upon this person. That is unfair to both the other person as well as to yourself.
Dating different people by default takes this mindset away because you will enjoy the benefits of a mindset of abundance. You will not engage in the mistake of trying to force things as you experience a mindset of abundance simply for having options.
The goal is to stay as true to yourself as you can be without compromising your values and set of principles. There is literally no need for that because you are already on the date which means gentlemen, that she is already attracted to you and ladies, he thinks you’re drop dead gorgeous. In that initial lovey-dovey period we can fall victim to the inclination to not be ourselves because we want to people-please. When we know we have options we are much less likely to engage in this detrimental behavior and thus we will have a much more meaningful experience which is always the goal.
So ladies and gentlemen, sit back, relax and enjoy your evening out. Be yourself. I hope that does mean for us gentlemen that we be a gentleman. Yes, open her doors, get her coat and slide that chair under her as she sits down.
The rest will follow, naturally…
Warm regards,
Mike from Freaya